Archive for the ‘Personal’ Category

I like opening blog posts with something that everyone can agree with me on. I think I learned that technique from some “how to get people to like your blog post” article or book or something. So here we go — job searches suck.

With me so far? Okay, let me do it again. Writing a resume sucks. (The author of that article or book or something would be proud of me).

So, yes, searching for a job universally sucks, especially when it comes to that stupid little piece of paper that employers get to judge you by. And man do people freak out about resumes. Despite the 18 trillion articles about resumes on the internet, most of them totally drop the ball when it comes to creating an effective resume. Let’s try to improve on that. [read]


Leave an extrovert alone for two minutes and he will reach for his cell phone. In contrast, after an hour or two of being socially “on,” we introverts need to turn off and recharge. My own formula is roughly two hours alone for every hour of socializing. This isn’t antisocial. It isn’t a sign of depression. It does not call for medication. For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating. Our motto: “I’m okay, you’re okay—in small doses.” [read]

Do you have difficulty saying “no”? Are you always trying to be nice to others at the expense of yourself?

Well, you’re not alone. In the past, I was not good at saying “no”, because I didn’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings.

For example, whenever I get requests for help, I would attend to them even though I had important work to do. Sometimes the requests would drag to 2-3 hours or even beyond. At the end of the day, I would forgo sleep to catch up on my work. This problem of not knowing how to say “no” also extended to my clients, business associates and even sales people. [read]

Dale Carnegie was a famous lecturer and writer as well as the developer of very popular courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, interpersonal skills, and public speaking.

Dale wrote the first book I ever read (that I wasn’t required to read). The book was titled “How to Win Friends & Influence People.” I read the book when I was about 11 years old; this book was an incredible bestseller, and an amazing read.

Although born in poverty on a farm in Missouri, Dale Carnegie managed to become quite successful.

Dale authored popular books such as “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living,” and “Lincoln the Unknown,” as well as several other books. [read]

One of my favorite principles that he taught was that it’s possible to change other people’s behavior towards you by changing your reaction towards them. Give that some deep thought , apply it, and it alone can change your life. But there’s more to consider.

Studies show children with musical training have more neural activity in response to changes in pitch during speech than those without such training. An enhanced ability to detect changes in pitch might help musicians better judge emotion in speech or distinguish a statement from a question. Musically trained children have better vocabularies and reading abilities than children who don’t have this musical education.

The musically trained may also fare better when learning a foreign language. Musicians are better able to put together sound patterns into words for a foreign language, the researchers say. [read]

Whether it’s ourselves, family, friends, or a child, there’s nothing more frustrating than watching someone we care about compromise their potential because of a lack of self-control.

Whether it’s a matter of not enough time, not feeling like it, or being too tired, we all run into situations where we try and fit too much in at once, or make habitual excuses for why we can’t do it.

Fortunately, this can be resolved. We just need to start organizing the environment around us, and learning skills for self-management.

Developing self-management skills is essential to becoming a peak performer in life. Everyone has high aspirations that they would love to accomplish some day, but without self-evaluation and self-control it becomes nearly impossible to follow through on goals.

By understanding the areas of congruence in our life, we can start to specify and understand where improvement is desired, and then develop a plan to make the change. Below are some important areas for self-management, followed by steps to begin the process. [read]

Word of mouth is generated by surprise and delight (or anger). This is a function of the difference between what you promise and what you deliver (see clever MBA chart to the right—>).

The thing is, if you promise very little, you don’t get a chance to deliver because I’ll ignore you. And if you promise too much, you don’t get a chance to deliver, because I won’t believe you…

Hence the paradox. The more you promise, the less likely you are to achieve delight and the less likely you are to earn the trust to get the gig in the first place … [read]